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Age brings patience and kindness, and an increased ability to both give and take; sex becomes more important, not less, as time goes on. As with so many things, later life is the time when you have tried everything and settle down to the things you like most — together. We all know, instinctively, what compels us and what repels us. We all know what our fetishes are. On one level this matters not a bit.
On another level it matters enormously because sex maps underpin what we do and how we respond. Plus, sex maps are often out of our awareness — we can fail to realize that we have unrealistic or unhelpful expectations, and so be doomed to disappointment. Likes, dislikes, hates, fears, prejudices, and dreams: Unpick them all, together, without feeling threatened, to appreciate as well as to understand — your own, revealed in comparison, as well as theirs.
Knowledge, it should be added, is important in other ways — it informs, improves, and optimizes the maps of young people growing up. We now know, through competent research, that sex education actively raises the age at which adolescents rst have sex and lowers the number of partners they have and the number of risks they take; there is no excuse for withholding from children knowledge not only of the mechanics but also the underlying and informing emotions.
To quote the rst edition of this book: We have deliberately not gone into the ethics of lifestyle. The facts are that few of us go through life with sexual experience con ned to one partner only, in delity gures increase year after year, and many people run multiple relationships on parallel tracks.
Yet most of us still remain monogamous in our long- term relationships, at least unless things start to go sour. All this can be vice versa. Whatever the temptations, however, delity is not only a good ideal but a good idea. We are more able to love — and to make love — if we are neither lying nor being lied to. Active deception always hurts a relationship. Complete frankness that is aimed to avoid guilt, or as an act of aggression against a partner, can do the same.
The real problem arises from the fact that sexual relations can be anything, for di erent people and on di erent occasions, from a game to a total fusion of identities; the heartaches arise when each partner sees it differently. There is no easy answer here. All we can suggest is that you discuss them, so that at least you know where each of you stands. A nal word on jealousy. If you are prone to jealousy, particularly the desperately insecure, low-self-esteem kind, get counseling.
If your partner is prone to betrayal, get out. This is about having the same values, aims, goals — one reason why arranged not forced marriages often work better than the hearts-and- owers variety. Sexually, looking in the same direction is initially about complementary sexual preferences; if she fancies him and he also fancies him, then forget it, at least in bed.
Similarity not quantity matters here — they can both be happy with it once a year and hence be happy with each other. Get the match on these right and the connection will be bone deep. Sexual incompatibilities that surface once the rst rush of love is over are mostly due to loss of love, not lust.
But keep the sexual t and it will be much harder to fall out of love; this may seem like kindergarten stu , but in and of itself, passion will act as a safeguard for the whole relationship. Properly done, sex is not only based on compatibility; it also creates it. When and if consummation comes, we are left with an air of astonished gratitude.
What then develops is everything this book is about. Get help now. Other than these situations, a strong and lasting desire for each other is a reasonable request to make of the love gods, but serious players know that the gods help those who help themselves.
Desire will be strongest where lovemaking is most effective; that means both partners should know how to arouse creatively and bring the other to climax as a matter of course, however much teach-and-learn it took to get there.
Intense desire is not just about passion, however, but also about emotion — one reason why the title of this book contains words referring to both. If we are to keep lusting, we need to keep feeling; if resentment and irritation lead to emotional anesthetization, that will inevitably lead to physiological anesthetization and a total shutdown of sensation experience.
But to keep on feeling passion, you need to have the courage to keep feeling full stop. A truly dedicated lover works at their art, and realizes that art is no less valuable for having to be worked at. In talking about sexual relations, it seems right to apply it to any relationship in which there is mutual tenderness, respect, and consideration — from a total interdependence where the death of one partner maims the other for years, to an agreeable night together.
The intergrades are all love, all worthy, all part of human experience. Some meet the needs of one person, some of another — or of the same person at di erent times. Sometimes two people know each other very well, or think they have worked things out through discussion, and they may be right. Tradition has tried to cut the casualties by laying down all kinds of schedules of morality, but these never work percent in practice.
Nor are they of much use in classifying the merits of different kinds of relationships see fidelity. If sexual love can be — and it is — the supreme human experience, it must be also a bit hazardous. It can give us our best and our worst moments. A cad can be of either sex. When this book was rst written, the world was in the middle of the most radical rethinking of sexuality ever — and the subsequent rethinking of love.
The prediction then was that sex and love could be divorced, and no-strings sex is certainly now more common. Equally, when the going gets rough in relationships, good, pleasurable sex can bring you through. When you make love, you do exactly that.
We can list some: Most women know all this, but they are as shy about telling it to males, for fear of seeming over-sentimental, as males are about con ding object preferences or forceful needs. In a book on sexual elaboration, this needs saying, if you are concerned with love rather than an Olympic pentathlon. In old-time France or Austria, one booked a restaurant room with no handle on the outside of the door.
At the same time, there is a French saying that love and digestion went to bed together and the o spring was apoplexy. On the other hand, immediately after a heavy meal is not an ideal moment for sex — you can easily make your partner, especially the woman if she is underneath, sick. Recent studies show it lowers inhibitions and increases euphoria, particularly for women, but is the most common cause of unexpected erectile problems.
If you are serious about sex, develop a liking for mineral water. Some people enjoy food-and-sex games ice cream on the skin, grapes in the pussy, and so on , which are great for regressive orality, but messy for an ordinary domestic setting; take care too with sugary foods, which can cause yeast infections, and oily foods, which can shred condoms.
Most lovers with privacy like to eat naked together and take it from there. In this respect the Puritans were absolutely right. At its best, this sort of dance is simply intercourse by remote control see remote control. Most good lovers dance well together. You can do it publicly or in private, clothed or naked. Stripping one another while dancing is a sensation on its own. Even then you need not stop. Unfortunately, this means that the woman needs to be at least as tall as the man, while as a rule she is going to be shorter.
Otherwise, he has to bend his knees, which is tiring. If she is too heavy to pick up, you can turn her and take her stooping from behind, still keeping the dance going. Seduction, or encouragement, while dancing is a natural. In the days of formal dancing, one wished that the woman had her breasts on her back, where one could reach them, but that would have made it too easy. Comes for us under the heading of substitutes. Used from before or behind, or in any other posture where she can press her thighs together.
The penis goes between them, with the shaft between her labia but the glans well clear of the vagina, and she presses hard. Gives the woman a special set of sensations — sometimes keener than on penetration, so worth trying. Some people like this either as a starter or during menstrual periods.
Many women can get a fair orgasm from it. However, in some parts of the world it still is a death sentence, and worldwide, sexually transmitted diseases STDs are at an all-time high. This is no time to be careless. The threats are many.
Gonorrhea and syphilis are still with us, and the former is getting harder to eradicate because of resistant strains. Plus herpes, trichomoniasis, bacterial vaginosis, thrush, viral hepatitis, crabs, scabies, HIV of course, the human papilloma wart virus, and chlamydia. We now know that the wart virus triggers a majority of cases of cervical cancer, while chlamydia can cause infertility see resources.
For all these reasons, here are the guidelines. Wrong; each day over a million people worldwide catch an STD. Also wrong is that STDs are solely the problem of the young and sexually active, who are, in fact, often informed and careful; older lovers — freshly divorced and convinced that they and their cohort are safe — are often not.
Penetration is key, but a scratch or bite that breaks the skin surface is also dangerous, as is oral sex. Is it unromantic to suggest testing? Even if your partner has had only one other partner and that person has had only one other, and so on and on, you are still potentially linked with a host of unproven and unknown infections. If you love each other, testing is the best way of demonstrating that.
Sexual health clinic sta really have seen it all before. Most infections, if caught early, can be treated by antibiotics; the exceptions are herpes, some strains of hepatitis, and the HIV virus, which are for life see resources. If you have contracted an STD, or have put yourself at risk of doing so, tell your current partner and seek clinical advice about whether you need to tell former ones.
Plus, of course, you can never be entirely certain of fidelity. Keep squeezing the end between forefinger and thumb. The limitations — just sound, no visuals, no touch — can drive separated partners mad with frustration, but can also be its main attraction. The world goes away and all that remains is pure pleasure and two voices. With only sound as feedback, one needs to tell more, describe fully, be ultra-clear about progress. Create a scenario; take it in turns to tell a story; ask intimate questions and answer them; make a confession of lust or love.
For her in particular, ngers, vibrator, and sound will likely do it all; if he hankers for the visuals too, get her to do it in front of a mirror and describe herself see mirrors. Once supremely in sync, slide into control games. And there is a special pleasure in knowing that your lover is being aroused solely by your direction, and is doing precisely what you instruct. Mutual vocabulary is essential; tastes are highly individual, and largely non-negotiable, and what one may feel is arousing, the other may think is too crude, clinical, or aggressive.
So long as you are not using the Internet as a bolt hole to escape real relationships, technology is a good idea for the same reasons that phone sex is: Obvious is that the Internet is a key resource for inspiration and ideas.
There is a wealth of material out there: Online coverage of sex is expanding so quickly that it would be pointless to attempt a listing; simply surf. However close one may feel to someone one has been chatting with online, treat them as one would any blind — unseen and unknown — date; that is, with care. Reputable dating sites say all this in their guidelines — read, learn, and bear in mind that the nature of the Internet creates speedy yet false intimacy that may cloud your judgment.
Using new technology for erotic purposes, on the other hand, is the ultimate in safe sex — no exchange of body uids involved. Text message, e-mail, webcams, teledildonics can all be used to wind each other up to fever pitch during the working day prior to extended evening action, to navigate more extended separations, and to play out dangerous or impractical fantasies without risk.
For word-based text and e-mail, the key is in the description where you are, what you are wearing, what you are doing to yourself, what you would like to do to the other. Feedback may not be instant, so bridge the gaps between sending and receiving; she in particular has to learn to keep herself at pitch despite pauses until climax is imminent.
Vibrators really come into their own here. Two or three times a week is a statistical average; new couples have it much oftener, established couples typically less. Some people do stick to a pretty regular schedule — others like intensive weekends at intervals.
The people who stick strictly to coital orgasm are usually opting for fewer climaxes than those who mix coitus with oral, manual, and other plays, because these increase the number of climaxes most men can get in a session.
You should devise your own mix, in the light of your own responses: As we settle, it is sex that gets moved aside.
The Kinsey Institute says that contemporary women have less sex than their s counterparts because they have so little uncommitted time in their lives; a finding that would ring true for many. But actually, once one realizes that sex is not an indulgence but a necessity, it all becomes easier.
Keep a diary and see what can be canceled or put on hold. Book in one night a week and one weekend a month. Usually, given time and space, it is meant to. Add children and the whole thing becomes both more di cult and more essential.
So act now. With older children, t a lock to the bedroom door and state clearly when you are uninterruptable. If caught in agrante, stay calm — children will take their cue from your emotions, and if you are unembarrassed they will be untroubled. Alternatively, leave them with grandparents, friends, or sitters while you take serious and extended private time. Ignore any qualms here; sex will make you a better parent, not a worse one. The ultimate seducer, Casanova, incidentally, was enticed, pressured, and forced just as much as he did the enticing, and not only regretted but sometimes actively resented his sexual liaisons.
Attention, compliment, clear intention, light touch, a drawing in and drawing on, the assumption that one person is willing to woo, and the other is worth the wooing; all this is in itself immensely persuasive. In an established relationship, always at least try to respond to seduction. In a new or potential relationship, reacting to seductive moves is a di erent game. Rules vary from culture to culture, but a sound guideline is to say yes if you want to and, more important, if you are sure you will still be comfortable with the decision the morning after and when sober.
If a new partner insists on physicality earlier than you want it, their pleasure is more important to them than your comfort and they are therefore not worthy of you.
All this applies to him just as much as to her. Say a clear no and trust to your instincts. The Barefoot Doctor says, instead: Taking an ordinary bath together has a charm of its own, though someone has to lean against the plumbing. There are now luxurious large baths and Jacuzzis on offer, as well as hot tubs for outside, year-round bathing entertainment. No ordinary domestic or hotel bath is big enough for intercourse without punishing your elbows.
Sex and outdoor bathing is a di erent matter, but check local customs and laws. A pool has extras like steps and useful handholds. It might be a good idea to insert before going in, if possible, or for the woman to wear a diaphragm; seawater could trigger infections and chlorinated pool water might just possibly be an irritant, as it is to the eyes.
You can have excellent straight intercourse lying in the surf if you can get a beach to yourselves, but sand is a problem, and keeps appearing for days afterwards. We have heard of people combining coitus with swimming, and even scuba diving, but they gave no practical details. Underwater coitus, if more than a token contact, would use up vast amounts of air because of the over-breathing that goes with orgasm. To enjoy any of the above approaches safely, you both need to be infection-free, contraceptively protected, and sure of your fellow bathers.
Really enthusiastic sex usually involves, at one time or another, almost every piece of furniture in the house, at least experimentally, but the bed is its commonest venue. Most beds on the market are designed by people who think they are intended to sleep on. Enormous or circular beds look suggestive, but have no real advantages over a full-size double bed. There are a few points we would consider before giving a seal of approval.
First, since one uses the sides as well as the surface, the height needs to be right. For some operations, especially bondage scenes if you like them, bedposts are essential, preferably tall ones, like those that hold up the canopies of antique beds, but not a footboard, as you may want to use the end of the bed for bending her over, backwards or forwards see ligottage, and ropework.
The mattress needs to be as hard as you can tolerate for comfortable sleep. A double bed is essential; anything less forfeits the chief sexual joy of living and sleeping together — the fact that you can take one another at any hour of the night when both want it, and relax together immediately afterwards.
If you have room, have a single bed as well, in case either partner is sick and feels more comfortable solo — twin beds have no place in a full sexual relationship. Besides the bed itself, you need four pillows — two very hard to go under the buttocks, and two soft to sleep on. The room must be warm at all times of the year — warm enough to sleep without getting chilled, and without nightclothes if you wish. Water beds, now reminiscent of glitzy glam and lava lamps, and only encountered rarely, nevertheless produce extraordinary sensations, and they have a natural period of resonance that tends to take over — one has to move in their rhythm, but this in itself is a stimulating constraint.
Lip and tongue kisses add immensely to lovemaking in all face-to-face positions. A lot of people maintain mouth contact continuously throughout intercourse, and prefer face-to-face positions for this reason. If you are in private, move on to breasts, and go from there. Another pleasure is to make her a carpet of owers, by covering every inch of her body with small, close kisses: Eyelashes too can be used for nipple, lip, glans, and skin kisses.
A good mouth kiss should leave its recipient breathless but not asphyxiated leave an airway open , and nobody likes their nose squashed into their face.
Clean your teeth before making love, and if you are having whisky, garlic, and so on, both of you have it. Use both hands; keep a steady progression of movement going with one, and make surprise attacks with the other. The whole essence is in the extreme lightness of the touch — more electric than tickling. Feathers, skin gloves, or vibrators deliver a quite di erent sensation. Much more pleasant if you rub each other all over with a condom-compatible massage oil.
Steer well clear of vulnerable body parts like scars and infected skin, and never put rm pressure on organs or on places where the bone is near the skin.
She kneads his muscles, with ngers and a vibrator as well if they like; he concentrates on her breasts, buttocks, loins, and neck. With practice, these sensations are well worth cultivating.
This always ends in genital hand work, then intercourse, followed by a bath together. Bottled lotion, however, offers a practical substitute for this particular fantasy.
The Kama Sutra recommends spicy foods; Casanova relied on oysters; Aztec king Montezuma claimed it was the fty cups of hot chocolate he drank a day that kept him capable of serving his harem.
Desire is so vital and lack of desire so devastating that humankind desperately wants to know the secret of creating and controlling it. Until recently, however, it has been the stu of dreams; the active ingredients in most reputed aphrodisiacs, including the aforementioned chocolate, are actually so small that they would have little e ect, and the ones that work by overstimulation — such as traditional Spanish y and its modern counterpart, amyl nitrate — can be life- threatening.
In this respect, we have a lot to thank current pharmacology for. Testosterone for both, dopamine for her, an upcoming nasal spray that activates brain receptors; no point in being more speci c — the landscape will have changed even before this book goes to press.
Science is only just discovering that emotion can also be an aphrodisiac. While festering anger and real fear kill desire, mild versions of each can have the opposite e ect. Grief, surprisingly, has an e ect too; if you nd yourselves making love after a recent bereavement, you are neither heartless nor unusual but affirming life in the most fundamental of ways. We may sometimes get spooked, yet such dreams are nothing to be scared of and almost always we fantasize not as a step to doing something in real life but because we never will.
Nighttime dreams, which feel in nitely more alarming because they feel completely outside of our control, are equally safe. We know it will never happen — that would be the point, and also the reassurance. She is more likely to make a story of it. He is more likely to have single scenes, often with di erent partners. The key is letting the film roll, no hesitation. This is where you get to be in complete control. Uninhibited partners will tell each other about their fantasies try free- associating just before orgasm if you are shy.
Really communicating partners look for them and put them on the menu unannounced — there is no more complete communication. So say one provocative sentence each in turn, to build the story. Ask your partner to tell or give you the thing he or she would most like to see you wearing when you come together for lovemaking and then, next time, wear it.
After a few big orgasms together, all but the oddest fantasies get to be shared. But be careful of crossing the bridge from fantasy to reality; the whole point of fantasy is that what you dream about is sometimes what you are rightly wary of doing.
Role-play is a di erent matter, more acceptable because entirely under your control. He can be the Turkish sultan, whose chosen concubine enters the bedchamber naked and in darkness dives under the covers at the foot of the bed, wriggling her way up alongside him to await his pleasure. Take it in turns. Standing, sitting, or lying, use belly-to-belly breathing.
Keep going until you are in sync, then slow down together, breath by breath, until deep and steady. If breath is unpleasant, cut back on spicy food and cigarettes; if it still causes a inch, book a dental appointment. To move to arousal, breathe in and up as if through the top of the head; then let the breath go with an audible sound, pelvis rocking slightly forwards, pelvic oor muscles pulling up see pompoir.
Use breathing, too, in order to pace orgasm. He can breathe through the nose and into his belly, slowly and steadily, to fool his body into holding back; once ready to push towards climax, he should then shift to short, sharp mouth breathing. Her added trick, when nding it hard to come, is to do whatever she is not doing — either holding her breath rather than letting it go or vice versa.
For some, arousal is linked not to breathing but actively to not breathing; block access to oxygen and adrenaline naturally kicks in to boost sensation. You may already stop breathing spontaneously at the moment of climax; to replicate this deliberately, simply hold your breath as you hit the point of no return see plateau phase. Start behind, turn them, and cover the front surface after, so as to be in position to go on to coition or hand and mouth work.
Mini versions cover particular areas in the same way. The best way to moisten an erogenous area is with the tongue, though one could simply begin as a partner emerges from shower or bath; for more extensive operations, use lotion or water sprayed from the sort of ne mister used for house plants.
Alternatively, most sex shops supply variations on tingling rubs and sprays. Air on a wet sensitive surface produces a sensation that can drive some people of either sex out of their mind — experiment on a small scale, using your natural equipment saliva and breath.
In the case of earlobes, breathe in, not out, or you will deafen your partner. Elsewhere, use steady, continuous exhalation with the lips about an inch from the skin. The natural sequel to a tongue bath. For a bigger operation, use the hair dryer — the result is far wilder than the conventional routine with feathers, except for palms and soles — try mixing the two by hitching a couple of feathers to the dryer nozzle on threads see feathers.
Some words of warning: Gentle nibbling of the penis, breasts, skin, ngers, ears, labia, clitoris, armpit hair is part of the general excitatory repertoire. Hard bites at the moment of orgasm excite some people, but for most, like other over-painful stimuli, they are a turno.
Some people tend to bite more than others; remember that often your partner will do to you what they really want done to them — being aware of this is the great secret of communicating sex. If it goes too far, the application of an ice cube will ease out the damage, then use arnica and cover with makeup.
This seems to be a case where the mammalian program of re exes is over-tough for human enjoyment. She may also use it to ease period pain or bring an end to menstruation.
Solo masturbation is different from couple sex, but not inferior, in the same way as oral sex is di erent from intercourse; we can — perhaps even should — indulge in and enjoy both. So change, as a matter of habit. All these are instructions to him and to her.
The Internet has a thousand more suggestions. He needs to observe closely; pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson report never having seen two women do it exactly the same way. She needs to accept that his masturbatory force is focus, not aggression; if she is aroused by it rather than wary of it, that will move everything to a higher plane. Some women feel left out or rejected if they nd their partner masturbating; if you feel vibrations when he thinks you are asleep and want to get in on the act, nish him yourself at full speed, or better, start slow, then stop, tie him, and make him watch you masturbate yourself, slowly and with style, before you put him out of his misery.
Watching each other take the last orgasm separately but together makes a great end to any session. Real, spiteful violence from a partner is a common cause of death or injury. Sadistic bullies are incurable by love. Back to the main route. As we have several times remarked, our image of love is uptight about the elements of forcefulness that exist in normal sexuality — which makes us prone to mix erotic energy with real spite or real anger, and confuse two quite distinct things.
To need some degree of energy in sex, rather than the glutinous, unphysical kind of love that the tradition propagates, is statistically pretty normal. But if these things can once be talked about, you can help him or her learn the uses of sexual play without the need to mix it up with real day-to-day angers and frustrations that can get out of hand. Use play. Cultivate pillow talk to unblock fantasies — ask each other just short of orgasm: As nearly always with human beings, symbolisms are generally bigger kicks than over-literal enactments.
Enthusiasts go in for elaborate handicaps: Women and men who enjoy an extra sensation of helplessness di er whether they feel this more held down or tied up: Once understood, none of this range of needs is scary, and can be stopped spilling out of sex into cruelty, or the normal resentments felt by any two people who live together.
Actually, it tends to discharge these. Nothing we have said excludes the tenderness of sex. If you do have a real ght, make sure to end it in bed. Most of the non-extreme postures come naturally, and few of the extreme ones merit more than a single visit out of curiosity.
The only part we regret is the loss of the fancy names, Arabic, Sanskrit, or Chinese, that they have been given across cultures and down the centuries.
Most people now know the obvious ones and have learned which make for quick and slow orgasm and how to use them in series. A few people, either for symbolic or anatomical reasons, can only achieve an orgasm in one or two of them.
Inspection will indicate which of these t special situations, such as pregnancy, disability, height di erences, and so on. Only trial will indicate which work best, or at all, orgasm-wise. Couples frequently start by trying the whole lot, but nearly inevitably end up with one or two, going back to the book for special occasions.
Others are mystical or merely gymnastic. All the poses we show are practicable and have been tried for t, if not to orgasm and more or less rewarding according to inclination. What we do suggest is that for any new trick you arrange a practice session in anticipation. The usual and regrettable outcome is never to try again. Not that rehearsal need be cold-blooded or taken out of actual lovemaking.
Anticipation being good in itself, you rst fantasize about it, sit down together, plan, and rehearse. Then t the actual trial-for-size into the waiting periods between bouts — when you are both excited enough not to feel silly, but not ready to go completely: Remember, even the most accomplished musician has to practice, though in love, once learned is never forgotten. If it the works rst time, you should get the erection — in that case, go where it takes you.
This means that you can rehearse something new for each special occasion, mastering every movement, but quite deliberately holding back and not playing it live until the appointed time. Having held back will make for even more reward when that time arrives.
To practice things, you must try in full erection; make the e ort and try the new posture when you have one — either without movement, if you are set on waiting till later, or switching after a few strokes to something else. Of course, if it takes over, as it may, you might as well carry on, and turn practice into performance there and then. For both sexes it is basic training — in mutual sex, good hand work is never superseded.
A couple who can masturbate each other really skillfully can do anything else they like, and a generation that has been brought up to masturbate with enjoyment from preadolescence will have a ying start in forming some sensual attitudes.
After intercourse, it is the natural lead-in to a further round. He needs to notice how she masturbates herself. Most men neglect the labia in favor of the clitoris, but the whole pussy needs attention. Most men think they know automatically, having succeeded once — they are often wrong. Steady rhythm is the most important thing, taking it from her hip movements, and alternating with gentle lip stretching — then a full attack on the clitoris and its hood with the fore nger or little nger, thumb deeply in the vagina keep nails short.
For faster response, he can hold her open with one hand and work gently with all the ngers of the other in this case, she may need to be pinned down. As to full-hand penetration, most women pass, while others like several ngers, not only for the feeling of fullness but also the deep intimacy it involves.
She needs intuitive empathy and real enjoyment of a penis, holding it in just the right place, with just the right amount of pressure and movement, timing her action in bursts to coincide with his feeling — stopping or slowing to keep him in suspense, speeding up to control his climax.
Her best grip is just below the groove, with the skin back as far as it will go, and using two hands — one holding the penis steady, or fondling the scrotum, the other making a thumb-and- rst- nger ring, or a whole-hand grip.
She should vary this and, in prolonged masturbation, change hands often. For a full orgasm, she sits comfortably on his chest or kneels astride him. During every extended sexual session, one orgasm — usually the second or third if he is lasting for that long — is well worth giving in this particular way: Rolling the penis like pastry between the palms of two hands is another technique, best used for producing an erection rather than going for orgasm. For some occasions she can try to copy his own favorite method of self-masturbation.
When she uses her own rhythm it can have a different and sometimes more startling effect. We have come some way since then — now there are textbooks on them, and they gure in lms. Personal likes and dislikes apart, most people now know that, given safety constraints see safe sex , they are one of the best things in sexual intimacy. Who goes rst is clearly a matter of preference, but one can give the woman dozens of purely preliminary orgasms in this way, as many as she can take, and she will still want to go on from there, so the man had better save himself for later.
Normal genital odor is a big part of the genital kiss for both partners, which means that the parties should wash often, but not immediately beforehand: Contraceptives can upset it too. The marketers of intimate deodorants and vaginal wipes show evidence only of sexual inexperience — nobody wants peach sauce on, say, scampi.
Seaweed odors or musk would be more in key. Many women are unaware of the extent to which their unique cassolette is their secret weapon. His, by contrast, will please her more the longer she loves him. Wash regularly, and here as everywhere treat deodorants the way a chef would treat deflavorants.
She can kneel astride and give herself, exactly as in a passionate mouth-to-mouth kiss, brushing rst, then open and deeply, while he uses long tongue strokes from the vagina to the clitoris, with an extra twitch to her glans as he reaches it each time see clitoral pleasure. This is really only a soixante-neuf standing up, but it gives her the unique sensation of an orgasm head-downwards. To get her there, he lays her faceup across the bed, head over the edge, stands astride her face, then bends over and picks her up, legs around his neck.
She can return his kiss if she is acrobatic, but near orgasm she had far better slip him between her breasts or into her hand, and abandon herself to full orgasm. The rst genital kiss, to an inexperienced woman, is another scenario. We suggest this instead: He can then quickly slip his nearer elbow through her raised knee, open her, and kiss gently on the closed labia until she is ready for deeper and deeper tongue strokes. For a very shy woman or man , try it in the dark — but certainly try it.
A spontaneous genital kiss to a man is one of the most moving gestures in the whole sexual experience. Her technique depends on her man — for instance, on whether or not he is circumcised. Not all men nd tongue or lip contact with the glans pleasurable. The various sorts of nibbling and so on described in sex books come naturally to most people.
For a more active male position and a fast orgasm, she lies back — best is any position where he can face her feet so that his penis follows the natural curve of her throat — and he has oral coitus as fully and deeply as she can stand it. She must keep her teeth well open, making him a vagina with her lips and tongue, then glide the penis back as far as she can, exhaling and nally swallowing to complete the penetration; he can then begin to thrust.
He needs to keep a little control, to avoid being involuntarily bitten. Eighteenth-century doctor John Hunter wrote: If he is truly unpalatable, he should alter his diet to include more fruit. A large penis will also stretch the mouth quite a lot, so be considerate. He should always be sure to let her stay in control of the pace and depth of the kiss. There are a minority of men who are unable to experience even the briefest of genital kisses before uncontrollably ejaculating — these should reserve it until they require a new erection, when it is a uniquely effective way of raising the dead.
For this reason, we devote a few paragraphs here to the topic. Those usually male sexologists who suggest that a vaginal orgasm is a signal of a more mature sexuality are ignoring two things.
Second, female experience, which consistently endorses the fact that most women climax easily, quickly, and without stress from clitoral stimulation, whereas intercourse typically demands e ort, concentration, and either a carefully chosen range of positions or — here we come back to square one — a clitorally targeted helping hand.
Given all this, the dedicated male player who longs to know what to do with a clitoris can do worse than refer back to his own, larger version. One caveat only; scale down for size. Where he may like rough, she will seldom want anything but gentle and lubricated, which is why tongue work is often her medium of choice. Does intercourse ever achieve the same effect? Of course it does — the symbolism alone makes it central to the whole performance.
Many women whose physiology permits get supreme climaxes this way, and those penetration positions that stretch or nudge the clitoris see CAT are highly functional. But to solve this particular conundrum, most couples combine, choosing positions that allow hand or vibrator access — her on top or rear entry for preference see upper hands, X position, rear entry, and bridge. Does intercourse alone work?
De ning the way to orgasm for either sex is, in our opinion, a red herring. Another slight but, for some men, real defect is that in soixante-neuf the woman is the wrong way round for tongue work on the most sensitive surface of the glans this explains the acrobatics in some Indian temple statues, which aim to get both mutuality and a better approach for the woman.
For some couples, the simultaneous, sixty-nine-type kiss really does represent the ultimate in sensation. Since loss of control will be complete, he should check rst that she can handle his ejaculating into her mouth.
The woman-on-top position in most books is all right, especially if she combines mouth work with hand work, but it gives the man a sti neck.
The man can open her widely by slipping his arm in the crook of her upper knee. The mutual kiss can be long or short; the short is just in passing — the long can last minutes or hours according to taste and speed. If, on the other hand, they are going alternately, let him start, preferably in this same no-cushions position, while she does very little.
Then it can be her turn; or they can go on to intercourse, putting o fellatio until he has had one orgasm and a rest and is due for his next erection.
In this way she can abandon herself, and watch her technique when she sucks him. As the saying went, couples sowed their wild oats on Saturday night and on Sunday prayed for crop failure. Women who have experienced the security of modern methods and discovered the play function of sex are not going to return willingly to the old insecurity. Neither are their partners.
The justi able price of such freedom, however, is that for any methods apart from condoms, we now need expert guidance for prescription and usage. The pill is still the overall contraceptive of choice, despite its reliance on a good memory.
Emergency contraception can be taken up to seventy-two hours the pill or ve days an IUD after sex, useful at times of contraceptive disaster; an option used not, as the myths suggest, by irresponsible teens but in reality by forty-somethings whose lives are so rushed that they forget the pill or split the condom. Intrauterine devices IUDs placed at the neck of the womb allow for spontaneity; the new hormonal versions o er even greater reliability. All these methods are reversible given time; the question is whether she wants to ingest hormones — which do guard against some diseases, even if they may make others more likely.
If she su ers side e ects, she should consult her health professional; a di erent prescription is often the answer. Diaphragms and caps o er less e cacy, but also fewer hormones. Either diaphragm or cap can also, handily, hold back menstrual blood if you want intercourse during her period. The condom, male and female, has the overwhelming selling point of being the only method that o ers true safe-sex protection. The manipulation involved in letting the woman put a condom on her man excites some people — for a real party trick she can position it with nger and thumb, then roll it down with her tongue.
Some makes of knobbed or otherwise-decorated male condoms sold to vary vaginal sensation are unreliable; check the packet for quality-tested logos. They can also slow down some over-quick ejaculators. For guidelines on use, see safe sex. Vasectomy and sterilization are the once-and-for-all contraceptive methods of choice. The male version blocks the tubes down which the sperm travel from the testes, the female version blocks the tubes through which the sperm travel to meet the egg. His operation is done under local anesthetic, hers is a much more major procedure; with both there is a slight time delay before real protection kicks in and neither guarantees any safety when it comes to infections.
The same, only more so, applies to withdrawal coitus interruptus ; by the time he is ready to climax fully, he will already have oozed more than enough sperm to make her pregnant a few thousand times over.
Regard with equal terror other mythical measures: You want to have a baby — for someone to love, for someone to love you, to keep up with your friends, to keep hold of your partner. Manhood is symbolized by it, desire measured by it; it is so powerful — and subliminally threatening — that illustrating it is often forbidden.
The in ow of blood turning soft tissue hard, and downwards into upwards, happens to babies in the womb and continues to happen spontaneously, barring illness, until the end of life itself; the angle, however, shifts from an average of 10 degrees upwards from horizontal at age 20, to 25 degrees downwards at age The best thing is to use it there and then.
Between lovers, an erect penis is a third presence; both gaze and touch are irresistibly drawn to it — it demands to be accommodated with every movement, whether during intercourse or not. This is as it should be; erection is always a minor miracle.
The conventional male fantasy of being ready to perform anytime, anywhere is totally unrealistic. Only the insensitive are all-time machines like a stud bull, and stud bulls too have their o days.
If the problem is regular or persistent, the causes are 70 percent likely to be physical — high blood pressure, diabetes, smoking, drinking, obesity. Unless it brings illness, age has absolutely nothing to do with this; belief that one must run out of steam has see age. If problems occur after a lifetime without problems, that calls for medical review rather than resignation. If that review throws up a cause, the prognosis these days is likely to be overwhelmingly optimistic.
If he is regularly getting an erection by masturbation, in sleep or on waking, or if the checkup has ruled out medical causes, the problem is not with the hydraulics but the mind. Mind problem number one is turning oneself o by apprehension about sexual performance.
This can begin because of alcohol, nerves, high expectations, or low self- esteem, but develop into a nervous habit. Mind problem number two is trying to perform against a speci c life stress such as overwork or depression, or a speci c turno such as wrong situation, wrong vibrations. If such mind problems are recalcitrant long term or causing relationship stresses, they will bene t from professional help see resources. But in the early stages, many respond to simple, at-home use of loving-kindness and a complete removal of internal and external pressure; no ramping-up of efforts or introduction of tricks and sex toys, all of which will just make him feel he is being asked to deliver and so make things worse.
Touch, kisses, a building of a ection, and an implicit acceptance on both sides that the relationship is strong enough to survive can, on the other hand, work wonders. During this suspension of more direct activities, anything goes so long as it shifts emphasis onto enjoyment: Reaction to penetration is a summary of who you are individually and in relation to each other. And hence, it always needs approaching with respect on both sides and only when there is full arousal on hers.
A courteous lover will pause as he enters, to honor the connection; she, in response, can bear down slightly to welcome him in. Go slow and gentle on the rst in-stroke to gauge how much she can take; this will vary according to her mood and often the time of the month. Pulling back slightly, then pushing in a fraction deeper, but still slowly, anchors the connection.
He may feel more, and there is a unique sensation for her around drier entry — a balance between pain and pleasure — which, if she is emotionally relaxed, can be memorable.
Pain on its own is a di erent issue. For either him or her, discomfort on penetration can indicate infection or structural problems, and for her, pelvic in ammatory disease, hormonal imbalance, or endometriosis. If the trouble occurs suddenly, and after sufficient arousal and lubrication, see a doctor urgently.
A stage on from this — vaginismus — means that she closes to the point of blocking penetration entirely. This is not unusual — some gures suggest 20 percent of women su er — and is not something to be taken lightly. After the rst successful penetration, each withdrawal and reentry — whether to change position, or simply to take time between orgasms — will give a slightly di erent set of sensations depending on her varying lubrication or his varying rmness.
The early Arabic sex manual The Perfumed Garden lists six distinct ways of penetrating. Long-term partners will probably develop many more. Pulling closer, pulling away, moving back, hesitating, urging on — all these will be signaled consciously with touches and murmurs, unconsciously by shifts of breathing and heart rate. How to decide what is appropriate and when? As to speed, fast may mean a quick ending, while slow can keep both hovering on the edge of orgasm for hours.
Patterns of varying strokes create varying sensations. The Chinese used complicated mixtures of deep and shallow, often in magical numbers — ve deep, eight shallow, or such; he could use that basic pattern repeated twice slowly, then twice at a medium speed, then twice fast, reverting to slow again. Counting the patterns can help him to control his orgasm, though the inconsistency may actively interfere with her arousal. If she prefers unpredictability, however, this will play well for her; he should also pause occasionally to keep her in anticipation see holding back.
Here are some signposts. The G-spot — typically a few inches into her vagina. With ngers, simply reach in and beckon towards her belly button — specially designed vibrators have a curve. For intercourse, you need positions that hit the front vaginal wall: Go slowly and work around the spot with circular movements; at rst she can feel as if she is passing water and may need to relax through it. The result, in some women, may be a spurt of liquid — not urine but female ejaculate. The A-spot — further into her vagina.
Use ngers and vibrator in the same way, but slide in more deeply. For intercourse, positions of choice are rear entry, with her sitting or squatting over him, or front entry with her sitting on the edge of the bed and wrapping her legs around his waist. Slow rhythmic pressure is best — she can take charge here and use his penis to bring herself along. Or kneel on top of him see upper hands and use her own finger or a vibrator.
Libel on one of the most rewarding sex positions. The only drawback is the control issue; in this position she can rarely a ect his decisions or make any of her own. He is literally on top, and if she feels underneath in any sense, then she will rightly balk.
Matrimonial is the starting point for nearly every sequence, second only to the side positions, and the most reliable mutual nishing point for orgasm. The only equally quick position for him is from behind if she is very tight, and the only quicker for her is astride on top. In fact, the chief reason for using the other six hundred or so positions is to delay his nal orgasm while multiplying hers.
Experimentation will show you which suit you best. Even excluding the leg-raising variants, this position has won more medals at international expositions than any other. On the other hand, there is no one sure re sex position that suits everyone. He may nd it leads too quickly to orgasm, or leaves him feeling too much in charge.
She may never come in this position, or only rarely; so try another position, especially if the man is overweight. The matrimonial and all deep or weight-bearing positions are now known to be a bad idea in pregnancy: There are women who have to be taken sitting, face to face, or from behind, nger to clitoris, or who need to ride.
If the man needs her at in order to nish, he can give her several orgasms in her preferred position rst, then turn her. A gentleman may be de ned as one who takes his weight on his hands. The tuning adjustments for matrimonials can be highly important — hard enough bed, aforementioned use of pillows if she is slim or built that way.
So if a guy really wants to better satisfy a woman in the bedroom. If she is standing. So the next good move would be to embrace her lips with yours. Let her know how beautiful and sexy she looks. As a warm-up to the main event. Of course it is always best to be honest about the things you express to her about her appearance and scent. Then focus on the feet. Most women sustain their erotic pleasure from frequent. If she is into a foot fetish. Once she is cuddled or you are standing behind her.
This is the stage at which you would start to engage her in stimulation of her vagina. Almost all women loved to be fingered by their partner during foreplay. Once her clothing is off or half way off. You can then kiss her on the neck and lips interchangeably. Assuming that you figured which breast action she prefers. So as you start to slowly massage her vagina. Once you figured that she is receptive to the idea usually a moan. So the best idea is to experiment and find what your partner enjoys the most.
Work your way slowly inside of her pussy lips. Be sure to let her set the pace. If she is moaning with pleasure. As she opens up. Please be mindful that the clitoris is sensitive.
To bring the foreplay to its climax. By now. You can then add a second finger gently around the rim of her clitoris. To do it correctly. Fingering the vagina can create some enjoyable arousal for a woman.
Oral sex is the last hurdle in the foreplay process. But assuming that oral sex is on the menu. I guess we can roll on with the tips for adding oral sex to the foreplay action scenario. If her pussy begins to feel swelling or is jerking rapidly.
Read her body language. Start by teasing outside her pussy lower pubic area with your tongue in a long circular licking format. If she orgasms during foreplay which she more than likely will. Move onto her inner pussy lips labia minora. You can also gently suck the clit and kiss it. Go to town on her clitoris. And in which case. To give her a proper dose of oral sex. While foreplay between both partners can be done interchangeably, I had choose to explain them separately, so that each partner can have an individual insight on how to do what to whom.
Anyway, foreplay requirements for men are much more limited than women. In other words, the woman does not have to do much to put him in the mood for hot sex. In almost all, instances, the foreplay peak and preference for men is receiving oral sex from his woman. Most men love oral sex. Some men even prefer a blow job above vaginal sex. Hence, since oral sex is such a big deal for men, then women ought to be guided here on how to do it well.
First you should start by romantically rubbing his cock with one hand and his scrotum with the other just for about ten seconds, then intermittently lick your tongue on his cock head or swirl it around the edge of the cock head for another fifteen seconds, as you tease him into further stimulation. Remember to keep one hand holding the base of the cock as you do this. The reason for using your hands first is to make a double check on the cock and around the edge of the cock head for any feeling of residue or test to ensure that it is clean and smooth.
This should also involve a brief romantic squeeze from the base upwards to the head, and a quick thumb touch to feel if there is any liquid from a potential STD; - in which case, the whole oral exercise might have to be paused and investigated for safety sake.
Anyway, assuming that your brief hygiene check of his cock is fine, you simply continue the action by slowly licking your tongue along the sides of the cock in a up and down fashion for another fifteen seconds; - at which time you can suddenly slip his cock head into your mouth not the whole thing yet.
As his cock head is in your mouth, place your tongue in a swirling fashion and wrap it vigorously as if you really want it deeper. Then take it all in when he least expects you to.
After a few seconds and a proper build-up of saliva in your mouth, you can happily suck up and down his shaft mimicking the thrusting motion of penetration, taking care not to graze his cock too hard with your teeth. Some men love the teeth to mildly rub on the cock as if you were brushing it, while others despise it. So you would have to figure out what your man prefers.
He wants to know that you're enjoying it as much as him, hence give him some romantic moans and vary your rhythm, speed and intensity, depending on his periodic responses. As you keep sucking his cock, try caressing his testicles gently and then try upping the pace for a few strokes.
Take him to the edge then bring him back from the brink to get him revved up and eager for more. Even though all men are different, a whispering question like that would make him feel loved in the bedroom since he would take it that you are almost indicating your sexual willingness to do anything to please him.
It would also show that you are more than just a strait jacket, and is not a boring out-dated sex partner.
This is to basically undress him. Oral sex is about using your mouth to maximum effect. To make him go weak at the knees. If it is intended for foreplay only. Try gently very gently sucking on his testicles one at a time. If you are kneeling. A simple trick to blow job success is to use your hand and your mouth together. Some foods and drinks do have an effect on the taste of your guys load.
When he starts to cum ejaculate. Some men like to cum ejaculate onto breasts. Otherwise let him cum ejaculate in your mouth and then spit it out. Alcohol and caffeine can add a tang to your man's semen and make it taste like a bad night out.
So it would be best to avoid swallowing if he had alcohol the night or day before. If you want to take him to climax. Have tissues on hand to spit into and wrap or mop up any spillage on the floor. Some women love to swallow cum. If you find the thought of sperm in your mouth revolting. So you can either let him pull it out of your mouth when he is close to cum ejaculate or you simply keep it out and jerk it out with a masturbating hand movement.
But of course. Also sweet and fragrant foods and herbs like parsley. Too much cauliflower. Other foods to avoid are too much garlic and onions which can add a funky taste to your guy's semen. If you want to taste sweet sperm when swallowing. In sexual intercourse. Getting into action: First strike Now that foreplay is over.
As fire-up as couples can be after foreplay. It is probably one of the most important first few seconds or first two minutes during sexual penetration of the vagina. In most cases she would climb on top of his cock if she was giving him oral in a lying position.
The immediate penetrative sexual contact between two people after foreplay is called the first strike. If a man or a woman cannot make their partner interested in their cock or pussy during the first 30 to 90 seconds of sex. These factors should be taken into account at all times.
The first strike must maintain the same excitement or better than what was achieved during foreplay. It is always advisable to keep the foreplay and oral sex sensation very short.
In most cases. Recovering from a first strike failure and building back sexual momentum is often difficult and in most cases. A bed or knee rise surface would complement certain sex positions. But if the bed is creaky. Once that concerned stop or pause occurs. To avoid this. But as I had said. If there is a silent disagreement over who should go on top first or who prefer to go behind.
Sex on semi-soft. But assuming that you get past the first strike season perfectly or at least reasonably. Hence you would have to consider working up some provocative sex positions to bring out the best of that encounter.
Either way. We are not talking about those Kama Sutra sex positions. Kama Sutra is nothing more than artistic sex to me and most of the women I know.
For me. Kama Sutra is sexual art. Making it sweeter: Sex positions we love Varying your sex positions during intercourse is an excellent idea if you really want to have the most enjoyable moments of sex with your partner.
But whatever positions you intend to take. Maybe it was deliberate.
Most women are more likely to open up to various sex positions and practices only to someone that they are in a solid relationship with. It must be noted that every person has their own sexual preference when it comes to positions.
I know you would find the various positions that follow hereafter. But as exciting as sex can be. Even female escorts would unlikely extend anything beyond the basic sex positions to their clients. It provides more intimacy during intercourse as both partners are able to face each other and connect romantically. It is also a more ideal position for a woman who prefers to let her man do all of the work. This position requires that the receiver simply lies on her back.
While most couples tend to feel contented after a dose of sex in this position. It does not necessarily offer much interaction opportunity for the woman either.
This position should not be used throughout the entire sexual episode without varying it. While in this position the man would be able to star into his partners eyes and interface with her. To get into this position. This position is more for fun and erotic teasing.
Once he is somewhat comfortable. Her partner then comes between her. He should ensure that his cock is inserted into her pussy while they are in the missionary position first. Once his cock is inside her correctly. As a matter of fact.
It requires that the woman lie on her back. The pillow is basically used for support and which would effectively cause her pussy to be projected at a much higher and closer position to the action. Getting into the position is the same as when you are doing it in missionary style. In reality the missionary position does not allow for maximum penetration in all cases. And while this may be exciting and can trigger an orgasm for both of them.
This position also allows for better interaction of the clitoris and provides more stimulation for the woman to achieve an orgasm. In comparison. This means that they would have had to be sexed in a position that would help to create proper stimulation of their clitoris. This position the coital alignment technique or CAT position is intended to greatly improve a woman's chance of orgasm during sexual intercourse.
The man should then move over his woman and place his cock in a downward position into her pussy. While he is pounding her. This should give him a tight fit between her legs and create a more sustained stimulation for herself. This would certainly allow both partners to develop an orgasm and peak naturally within a few minutes.
In that way. To do this. Carefully move over her as if you are going into the man-on- top position. Placing a woman in this position and pounding her. Once you get that response or you figure that you can give her more. If she wants it deeper she would try to reach your waist to pull in closer or rub any reachable part of your body as she moans in satisfaction. Rock her in a side-to-side and up-and-down motion to bring the head and shaft of your penis in direct contact with the front wall of her vagina.
You then kneel between her legs. As you evaluate her response and potential to have deeper penetration. Because this angle allows for deep penetration. After a while she would begin to moan or scream in agreement as she gets closer to her climax.
The woman would then follow in a similar position. It can be done preferably at the interval or the closing off point of some good sex.
Once a percentage of the cock is in her pussy. She would feel a non-penetrative flow of the cock in her pussy which can be arousing. However the X- rated position in itself is not design to achieve orgasm.
Once she is comfortable she should then move herself closer up to her man. Orgasms are sometimes achieved this way. Please note that this position can be done vice versa. The man would then follow in a slightly sitting pose on one side of his buttocks. He then moves into position and insert his cock neatly into her pussy.
Once he is inside her. Satisfaction is usually slow but rewarding in the long term. Then have her bending her right leg around the right side of your waist. This position is more for arousal sex.
Then as you increase stimulation of her pussy and she is fired up. Once your cock is in her pussy and the position is all set. To deliver on this position.
Now move together into each other until her hips is between your spread legs. It is more suited for situations where both partners would like to look at their sexual organs in action. The woman should then climb on to him. It would be a good idea for him to place a below behind his back for support.
She can also control the extent to which she is penetrated. She can raise and lower herself on his shaft as slowly or quickly as she pleases. To enjoy the Lazy man position. It gives her the opportunity to feel her man right up inside her as she looks him in the eyes and reason with him. Both of you can then choose to delve into any suitable motion thereafter. From this primary position the receiving partner basically crouches on all fours. It is based upon the physical posture of kneeling.
This is an illustration of the Standing Rear Entry. There are many direct variations of Doggy Style. This position tends to provide more comfort for the man. To get going. Another variation of the Doggy Style sex position is the Couch Surfer as is illustrated below.
For this position. Being in this position may be a bit uncomfortable for the female receiver. The bathroom Attendant. In this position. Other options may also mean slipping her panties crotch aside. In despite of the many variations of the doggy style. Mutual orgasm is usually achievable within 15 to 20 minutes. And while there are quite a few other minor variants of the doggy style.
The mere fact that you are entering her from behind. To get into some action with this position. Pounding your woman in this position ideally leads to a mutual sense of satisfaction and a sweet orgasm. If a pillow is used to support her hips. He then grabs onto the backs of her thighs.
She can optionally position her legs as if she is riding a bicycle or place her heels on your shoulders. You can then churn your penis in an artistic fashion into her vagina. This usually requires a woman with a little acrobatic willingness and a desire to try extreme sex positions. To screw her in this position. This position is a fun and ideal way to enjoy sex while standing. Though it is not a too popular or preferred sex position, it can add some spice and fun to your sexual fantasies, as it brings mutual satisfaction to both parties.
Apart from allowing romantic face-to-face contact, this move is also generally good for quickies and having sexual intercourse in very tight quarters. To get into this move, both partners simply stand facing each other, while the receiver raises one of her legs to give easier access to their partner, who should be helping to support it. If the receiver is not very flexible, they may want to try putting the raised leg onto the hip of the giver.
This position usually works better when both partners are almost the same height or support is given to the shorter one. Sometimes we all get so athletic and full of energy that our sexual encounters seems to be the only way to word out all that energy and burn some calories in the process.
If you know what I am talking about, then you would certainly understand why people sometimes find themselves having sex in some emerging required positions such as the Standing Wheel-Barrow. To enjoy this sex position, let the female receiver stoop herself first in doggy style on the floor. The male giver will then position himself closely behind her, insert his cock into her pussy, and firmly lift her rear off the floor via her hips, while she grip his waist with her legs, for safety.
Once she is suspended, he can proceed to thrust her soundly, as he slowly let her stroll around the house on her two hands. Those of us who are open about sex and love it all the way, usually have no limitations on where the action can take place.
However, while we can technically have sex anywhere in our homes, there always seem to be something about the kitchen counter, and something about your woman when she looks all too sexy doing the dishes or cooking up a meal, too close to that very counter.
You will then bring him close into you. Once you are both in sexual harmony. During intercourse in this position. The counter also offers solid support. So ladies. Let him rub his cock head first in a romantic motion against your pussy. Then male giver can also intensify the action by grabbing her buttocks and aid her in the lifting and bouncing. This position ultimately allows for a true face-to-face intimacy experience between both partners. Then the female receiver then faces her man. Once in that position.
The female receiver should then turn away and back up onto her man pelvis. To get into the action. She can then ride back and forth by pushing off of the chair arms or pressing up and down with her feet. That option is called the Seated Wheelbarrow. To get into it. The woman should then straddle the raised leg with a thigh on either side and lower herself onto her man so that her back is facing him. To get into the act. The woman should then mount herself on her man as if she is sitting on a chair.
She can also use his bent knees if on a bed or his legs and the back of a couch for back support. To enjoy his cock and let him enjoy your pussy. The Cowgirl position is often classified as the ideal position for a girl who is desirous of showing off her wild side. On the other hand, her man would find erotic joy in holding on to her breast and massaging it sensually to give himself and her some sexual stimulation.
Strangely, there are over ten different angles for the Cowgirl sex position. However, we would just focus on the two main ones, as they primarily form the foundation for all the others. First, the man simply lies on his back with his legs outstretched.
The female partner will then squat on top of him a she gently insert his cock into her pussy, then raising and lowering herself with her thighs.
The male partner can support her actions by holding her hips and rising to meet each thrust intermittently. She can also regulate the scale of penetration between deep thrusting and shallow thrusting, which can stimulate the front of her pussy, leading to a wonderful orgasm. On the other hand, the woman can choose to change to a more sexually stimulating position, which is certain to add more enjoyable feelings for her pussy.
This position which is a reflection of the cowgirl position is better known as the Reverse Cowgirl, as is demonstrated below; -. Of all the variations of the Cowgirl position, none other offers more excitement and erotic satisfaction as the reverse version.
The man will moan and react with great excitement, while his woman would scream in sensual joy as her pussy grinds down on his cock, and the dorsal side, hits her rapidly on the G-spot. Nonetheless, the reverse cowgirl and the Cowgirl position in itself are technically delivered in different ways.
For the forward cowgirl, the woman can either kneel and work the cock in an almost straight up position, or she can opt to lean forward, hug her man while he lies on his back , and lift her rear in a rapid up and down position, as she works his cock. During that time it would be good if she can nibble on his chest nipples, or lick it romantically, and I assure you that he sure to get an orgasm within a matter of minutes; - if not, in a few seconds.
With regard to the Reverse Cowgirl, the woman should go over her man as he lies down, pose in a tilted manner on one side so as to adopt the kneeling position with one knee on the bed, and simultaneously guide his cock gently into your pussy. She can then better position the other knee unto the bed, then place her hands forward and hold on to his legs by the knees. Once she is in position, she should penetrate his cock in a sitting position, and barely easing her butt so as to create a muted feeling as if she is barely rising up and down.
That aside she can lean forward to his legs and occasionally raising her pussy right up to the cock head and work it deep down and right up again rapidly for a quick orgasm.
The female partner should then bring herself into him and sit while she gently glide his cock into her pussy with one hand. All stairways or steps all over the world is set at almost one standard height between each row of stairs. Once his cock is in position within her vagina. The female partner ultimately enjoys this position more than her male counterpart. He can tease her a bit by kissing her on the neck and rubbing her pussy until she gets wet. If you ask me.
This is a very comfortable sexual position that lots of women enjoy. It is preferred in bed for the sense of belonging that it gives to women and the feeling of comforting sex from their man. And the only sexual position that offers this type of feeling is the Spoon position. The forward facing Spoon position. Once her butt is close enough. The spoon position can also be done in reverse position. After that. Once it is done correctly.
This is known as complimentary sex. The Complementary In some instances. As in the case or oral sex. Complimentary sex positions takes different forms depending on what the individual is doing or who is doing what to whom.
This is probably the most mutually benefitting position for couples indulge in oral sex. She then bends forward. She then then slowly kneel down. The man should remain still as the woman. This position can require some intermittent adjustments until both parties genitals are in a mutually satisfying position.
The 69 position can be done with the woman kneeling on top. In this position both partners can enjoy receiving and giving oral simultaneously. To engage in this position. She lies on her back. Once his cock is close enough to her mouth. She can then regulate how far into her mouth the male partner can thrust himself while ensuring that she does not choke on it. Her tongue can switch between sides of her mouth to stimulate his cock. To ensure that her man is stimulated.
Some couples usually allows this to be done in a format called pussy to mouth. The pace and pressure is usually up to her. To achieve the best result. It is also more romantic than most others. Getting into this position requires the same steps as the 69 oral sex position.
Positioning for this treat is quite easy. She then bends her legs backward towards her breast and exposed the pussy for her man to tongue treat. The woman simply lay on her back. Unlike the other oral sex positions where the woman opens up herself so that her man has easier access to her pussy.
And since the clitoris is considered the mother of all female sexual stimulation. Getting into this position simply requires the woman to lie on her back with her legs closed and her man sitting next to her or softly over her.
The objective of this position is to let her man stimulate her clitoris instead of the entire inner labia of her pussy. It is usually put into action after the woman would have become really aroused from the clitoris stimulation she would have gotten during the Closed for Business oral delivery.
Her man should then hold on to the tilted thigh to do his duty. She will then prop up one of her legs in an open knee bending position. No specific instruction is generally given to get into this position as preparation is natural. It requires that the man sort of kneel down to his woman and go down romantically on her pussy. As shown in the illustration above. It requires that the woman bends forward. In the next set of readings. Fuck Positions we love According to western culture. People are insistent that sex is much more moderate and is practice with more connection.
Then another day. Assuming that you accepts this. From my own personal experiences. It is this animalistic behavior and extreme sexual conduct that women often classified as being fucked by their man.
I would surely agree that there is a psychological but very small physical difference between the two sexual expressions. Hence the variation is that sex requires foreplay and a few other pre-requisites before you can get into some tender love making.
The female receiver should lie on her back with a pillow at the point where her back will be tilted over. From that position he can then thrust forward and give her a firing round of good fuck. This position usually involves penetration on one side of the womb. To get into this fuck position. This will result in her entire rear and pussy appearing to be in a beautifully hanging or tilting position towards her man.
This will give him the ideal advantage to position his cock to penetrate one side and the center of her pussy perfectly. To penetrate the other side of her pussy and the center again. To satisfy her. To hammer her pussy perfectly. With his cock now in her pussy. The male partner will then come over her. A wild orgasm rush is usually due within ten to twelve minutes.
Once there. Penetration is usually vigorous but is more romantic because the partners usually keeps their eyes often on each other and French kiss intermittently in a naughty and erotic manner while the man fucks his female partner. Her rear would then look like a waiting frog with her pussy puffing out in the middle. They both keep the rest of their bodies still and let the man waist do the work. She will then pull her knees slightly forward in the direction of her hips.
Her man then steps over her. She then puts her hands akimbo to support her weight which should be restricted to her shoulder on the floor.
Now in a cross-T position. To enjoy this. Once he can feel her. He can then give his woman a good fuck while looking at the impression on her face. While the above is about three quarters of all classified fuck positions. Her man then kneel-walk into her crotch and slip his cock into her pussy. Sex Positions for specific purposes While the earlier discussed sex positions and fuck positions are primarily intended for pleasure or sexual satisfaction.
Some of those positions are ideal for impregnating. For your benefit. In this position both of her legs are up in an almost closed manner. But if you can get her to give up the shyness. And because sperms are miniature. The Spoon position Almost all virgins or women having penetrating sex for the first time prefer to face their partners. Stand and Deliver Because of the degree of penetration in this position.
Therefore the positions to employ in this regard. The Couch Surfer Offering a unique and deep penetrating access to the vagina. While it is a distant family of the doggy style. But with the Couch surfer. Another position in which the same roll over system should be applied and is equally good for pregnancy efforts is the Downward Dog.
The Cuban plunge The Cuban Plunge is another ideal position for penetration deep inside of a woman. And since it is so important to everyone. Having an orgasm can be a straight forward process for some women. I felt that it would be fair to share some positions that can stimulate an orgasm. For many people. Even though I trust that these positions will work wonders for you. A woman can work her man cock off in this position until he starts screaming with niceness.
This is more ideal for a man to get an orgasm. A good orgasm stimulating position for both partners. The Pole position. Positions fitting for orgasms The Reverse cowgirl.
The Waterfall: Stand and Deliver. This position seems to be living up to its name as it delivers in yet another area of sexuality. This delivers similarly to the reverse cowgirl.
This position can be fairly compared to the same results you get from Stand and Deliver. Standing Tiger Crouching Dragon: Forward cowgirl. To get screaming results the man should let his woman tilt forward and let him suck her breast while she work his cock.
For those who are experienced. It may be cool to use aloes. Assuming that the woman is lubricated. Then there are others who despise the idea and would not even entertain the thought of giving it a try. From the night club to the birthday party. I guess. Simply raise her skirt up. This is ideal for a slightly dark room. The Bathroom Attendant position can be utilized in the office washroom. Once it is a skirt or a dress.
This works every time. The Hot Seat sex position is ideal for a quickie in the theatre. Trust me: This would require that the woman wears a short skirt or dress that can be rolled up easily. I had to mention this sex position in an earlier page of this book. So here again. And with a little darkness. Unconventional Sex practices Every day. And if you had known what Unconventional Sex really is. But while you might not be indulged in unconventional sex.
I guess I can elaborate a little more on Unconventional Sexual Practices. And that broader scope of sex that I am talking about is known as the unconventional side of sexual gratification. Assuming that you are clear on its definition. Unconventional Sexual Practices is classified as any consenting sexual act or sexual activity that occurs between opposite genders but is considered socially unacceptable.
Gay activities or lesbianism does not fall into this category or does not fit this description because the definition stipulates that the sexual activity must be occurring between or amongst opposite genders meaning between men and women. So here we go: It is by extension.
A threesome is a sexual activity involving three persons. While threesomes can allow for erotic pleasures. It is more of a love triangle or a consensual sexual relationship between three people where the ultimate goal is to give each other sexual satisfaction at the same time.
Most people engage in threesomes for satisfaction of their sexual fantasies. Each of the partners in a threesome may engage in any type of sex acts with any one or both of the partners. This arrangement is usually discreet and subtly advertised. Swinging is technically close to an Orgy. Sexual orgies gives participants an opportunity to exploit their sexual fantasies in a semi-anonymous manner without being worried about any future commitment to the individuals with whom they are having sex with.
People gets involve in orgies for almost the same reasons as a threesome. Participants in this sort of sexual contact claims that the participating women usually wants to feel sexually degraded and stimulated by having men doing that to them. Swingers claim that this lifestyle helps them to relieve themselves of sexual boredom.